Are You a Reluctant Captive to Money?

Whenever the topic of money comes up (and these days it is always sitting like an elephant in the room) a maelstrom of fear and frustration gets activated. Money or the lack thereof seems to be the reasons people give for everything from why they cannot start a business right now to why they cannot take care of their most basic needs of self-care. It is as if money, the economy, and the nonstop media reports of doom and gloom are holding the human race captive.

Call me crazy, but money is not a force of nature like tsunamis, earthquakes, fires, and floods that we cannot influence. Yet, I get the sense that many people are being held hostage by their own beliefs. It is not so much that the beliefs are necessarily new. The difference is that these gremlins are ten times bigger than they were a year or two ago because the collective energy of fear is running loose through the streets.

Do these phrases sound familiar to you? Have you uttered any yourself?

All I can do now is just hold on tight to the job I have, do whatever they ask of me (even if it involves insane demands), and not rock the boat.
Now is just not the right time to make a career change.
I can’t start my own business now with the economy like it is.
I can’t afford to spend money on my own personal self-care right now; it is just too much of a luxury.
There are no good jobs/clients out there so why even bother.
No one will pay me what I’m worth so I’ll just have to lower my expectations and put myself (and my services) on sale.

So, when you say these things, how do you feel? What is activated in you – fear or freedom? Do you feel like a victim or empowered? Do you feel defeated or full of possibility?

If you’re like most, a HUGE amount of fear is circulating and keeping you stuck right where you are feeling like you have been victimized by the “others” who created the economic mess. You feel like an eight year old child who was just beaten up by the neighborhood bully. While I agree there has been plenty of greed without accountability, unethical happenings, and a lack of integrity in the bigger financial system, they are just convenient places to place blame and relinquish the power we have over our own circumstances.

What we believe and how we feel creates our experience. This isn’t some new age woo woo premise. We create our own realities. We get to choose our thoughts; our thoughts influence our feelings; and how we feel determines who and what we attract into our lives and our response to it. No matter what happens to us in life it is how we choose to respond that makes all the difference.

What if you could feel better and attract abundance simply by shifting your mindset? Would you be willing to do it?

Know that I’m a practical person and I’m not suggesting abdicating responsibility, shunning right action, or engaging in a fairyland tale of “isn’t everything just grand” if the walls are crumbling around you. I’m saying just the opposite:

Feel the emotions you are feeling (all emotions are welcome).
Ask yourself – what do I believe about money?
Evaluate whether these beliefs are bringing you the results you desire or something else.
Choose a new, more empowering belief.

You might say – choose a new belief? Easier said than done. I agree that to try and cross the chasm from “I’m a reluctant captive of money” to “I am a powerful steward of my money and it flows effortlessly to me in large heaps” seems ridiculous. That is part of the reason why so many people fail when it comes to adopting new beliefs. We look at the end game belief and then just try to force it in our heads. Then it feels like utter and complete BS so we retreat to our cynical ways and get the results we’ve always gotten. Instead, I invite you to choose a next “baby step belief”. Take one micro-movement toward freedom. So for instance, you may choose to shift from “I’m a reluctant captive to money” to “I acknowledge I’ve allowed myself to be a captive to money and now I am in the process of releasing those chains.” See how much more do-able that feels?

Don’t underestimate the power of micro-movements. Have you ever been uncomfortable lying on the couch and just shifted a little and then felt great? Have you ever found yourself in a yoga pose dying to get out, adjusted a hair, and then felt way better? Have you ever shaken the sand out of or taken a pebble out of your shoe? If you have you already know the immense power of a micro-movement! It can change the situation entirely or be the catalyst for a whole world of possibilities.

Know that money is really an exchange of energy. When you are held captive and fearful of having/not having money, negative energy rules the day and backs up onto you like a clogged drain. Nothing flows freely. You damn up the flow of energy between you and others and prevent it from flowing into your life as well. Only you can powerfully influence your own energy and your relationship with money. So, rather than fall victim to the whims of the chaos swirling about, now is the time for you to take a stand and do things differently. Your future is counting on you.

Are you ready to break free from being held as a reluctant captive of money? Need help identifying and shifting the beliefs you hold about money that keep you stuck and feeling fearful? Contact me today for a complimentary get-acquainted session. Together we can transform your fear into freedom.