The L Word Season 5, Episode 4: The Coach’s Perspective

This week was heavy on the bar and party scenes. When that happens you can almost guarantee that something dramatic is in store. In fact, I will go out on a limb and say that a lot of people fall out of personal integrity the minute they wander into such a scene. And, in this instance, our ladies of The L Word are no exception.

Last week I talked in depth about Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and this week we see how emotionally charged the very process of creating a defense can be as Tasha and her counsel Beech have words. He comes around with the help of his wife and what I might imagine was a “do the rightThe L Word - Alice thing” type of conversation. After all, whether he approves of Tasha’s relationship or not is not the issue, whether he chooses to honor his obligation to defend her is. Both Tasha and Alice seem very relieved and grateful when he comes to visit them and discuss the case. Alice even says “Thank your wife for me. I believe that behind every man who does the right thing there is a woman that got him to that place.” Clearly she is pleased about his decision to be in integrity and do the right thing.

I suppose it takes only a few moments of glitz, glitter, and fancy champagne to lead Alice to a deteriorating level of personal integrity, however. With all the personal growth and character development we’ve seen of Alice this season I must say I am truly disappointed in her after this episode. I can’t wait to see how this unfolds, but I have to say I gasped audibly as Alice took out her cell phone camera at the exclusive Hollywood secret party and took a picture of a closeted athlete kissing another man. One can only guess (and the teasers for next week episode confirm) that she has plans on using it to out him.

I don’t know about you, but is Alice missing something here? Is she not knee deep in Tasha’s dilemma of being outed and forced to leave her decorated career in the military? Did a few glasses of booze erase all the emotions and personal pain she has been experiencing as Tasha’s girlfriend? While I totally “get” her passion for journalistic integrity I’m not sure I understand why she chooses to invade someone’s personal privacy in this way especially since the host explicitly requested her not to report on the events at the party.

I’m certainly not here to judge Alice’s behavior, but it does beg the question — are you in integrity? Do you even know? Are you aware of instances where you are out of integrity? And, what does that cost you?

While integrity is about doing the right thing according to your own set of personal values. For most of us that aligns with an overarching barometer of doing the right thing as a fellow human being. That whole “do unto others” philosophy isn’t a bad starting point when you start an inquiry into integrity.

So, what do you think of Alice’s actions? Is she in integrity based on what we know about the character? And, what would you do in the same situation? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments….

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  1. Hi Paula………i really enjoy the L word – it does not particulary reflect my lifestyle (I’m 63 and have been in a relationship for 17 years) but I do enjoy watching woman who love woman………I digress…..I agree with you about Alice’s behavior in taking the photo – those damn cell phone cameras!
    I don’t think that based on her character so far that in the real world she would have done this…this is drama after all. Her focus would have been on her girlfriends current situation and her need to remain in a private relationship. It will be interesting to see where they take the story from here with her outing the athlete.
    I like your take on the episodes and hope you will continue them.
    thanks for taking the time,
    dolores

  2. yes, real or not, alice's character is showing her lack of experience by doing what she did in outing the closet case guy. usually, these sorts of 'outings without the outee's permission' come back to haunt the outer. what happened to her saying she had to sign a release to attend the party???? if that's true i bet 'alice in lesbo-land' is about to be sued!

    also – alice's response is so typical of today's internet environment where people post stuff about 'rotten neighbors' and even worse. i love how L Word is presenting this issue…..

  3. yes, real or not, alice's character is showing her lack of experience by doing what she did in outing the closet case guy. usually, these sorts of 'outings without the outee's permission' come back to haunt the outer, at least in the real world. what happened to her saying she had to sign a release to attend the party???? if that's true i bet 'alice in lesbo-land' is about to be sued!

    also – alice's response is so typical of today's internet environment where people post stuff about 'rotten neighbors' and even worse. i love how L Word is presenting this issue…..

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