Are you someone who can seemingly talk forever and take the round about way of getting to the point?

Or, perhaps you have the opposite challenge…

Do you struggle on saying much of anything at all leaving others to wonder what you’re really thinking and feeling?

Either way if you can’t communicate with laser-like focus you are sabotaging your own success. You see, I can talk (and talk and talk and talk and talk… you get the picture?).  Yet as more time goes by I realize that while this can be a benefit sometimes, more often than not it is a liability.  Every time I find myself over-explaining I hear the voice of a career counselor (and now friend) I once had told me point blank “You’re one of those damn expressives and it drives me nuts!” Meaning that I tend to think out loud and talk a great deal including every bloody detail imaginable to express myself.  Now, there’s nothing wrong with talking or chit-chatting of course. This doesn’t mean you can’t ever relax and talk at length with someone.  But, when it comes to business and the business of creating what you want in your life, clarity and brevity are your friends.

Read more about communicating with confidence …

Last week I had the pleasure of going to the National Historic Park for Women’s Rights in Seneca Falls, NY.  Here we are standing next to the Declaration of Sentiments monument.

It was an inspiring few hours there.  To be in the space and energy of what women throughout history have done to stand up for the right to actually experience their birthright in America – equality.

This experience inspired me to write my recent newsletter entitled “What Do You Stand For?”. Do YOU know?  Can you answer these questions?

• What do I stand for?
• What do I stand for as a person?  Who am I really?
• What do I stand for in my business?

If you can’t you’re at the mercy of the whims and tides of life circumstances and others.   Read the complete article “What Do You Stand For?” here

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Overwhelm. Who hasn’t experienced it? For many, especially if you own your own business, it can be a daily occurance.  You know the feeling — there is oh so much on the to-do list and I need to remember this and oh yeah I forgot about that how will I get it all done — barrage of thoughts.  When this flood of ego-mind thoughts come rushing in it is often referred to as monkey mind.

I was recently reading one of Jack Kornfield’s books after my morning meditation practice and there was a paragraph that described the intense rush of thoughts and emotions as being akin to a monkey swinging wildly from branch to branch in a lush rainforest.  I smiled at that image and thought to myself that when I am in overwhelm it is like a whole pack of monkeys going wild through the forest of my mind.

The #1 best thing you can do to overcome overwhelm and get more done is to STOP. That’s right, counterintuitive as it may be, stopping is the starting point for taming the beast and regaining a sense of calm, control and effectiveness.  Then you need to get clear on what is really going on in your mind and body and what you do and do not want.

Nat at Prosperity Lighthouse has an excellent post on the 5 Steps to Getting Beyond Procrastination.  In it he details the steps of one of the key systems I use myself and with my clients to  overcome overwhelm as well as a wide variety of challenges.    Here’s an important snippet from his article:

The next step is to identify what you do want. Most people don’t know what they want; therefore, they continue to attract what they don’t want.  By identifying what you want, you are given a different focal point, rather than staying in the energy of what you don’t want.  Whatever you focus on is what you get, so it is better to be clear on what you want so you attract more of that!

The next step is to ask yourself is “How will I feel once I have what I want?” The reason you want to become clear on how you will think you will feel is because ultimately this is what you wanted to feel in the first place.  By tapping into these feelings, you are tapping into the energy that will carry you through the process.

Who actually wants to feel overwhelmed right?  Yet we quickly and often plunge into a pool of overwhelm and can’t seem to get out.  By stopping, bringing light to what IS happening and then making a conscious shift to what you DO want allows you to shift from victim of overwhelm to creator of your own experience in just moments.

If you are an overwhelmed Mom and entrepreneur, check out the Prosperity Lighthouse 6 week tele-program led by Julie Mele that is designed just for you.   You receive $50 off if you sign up by June 3rd.  Put Paula G in the “referred by” box to let them know I sent you! Learn more and register: http://www.ProsperityLighthouse.com/moms

What does it mean to be your own best friend?  Why does it matter?  What is that elusive first secret to becoming fully comfortable in your own skin?

Listen to me talk about this very thing from a recent live speaking engagement. Learn about the power of embracing the fact that wherever you go, there you are.

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