Intuitive Intelligence™ Podcast with Barbara and Shannon Kelly

How to Ditch the Endless Quest for Perfect and Find the Career – and Life – That’s Right for YouIn this podcast I am excited to interview mother-daughter author team Barbara and Shannon Kelly.  They recently wrote the book UNDECIDED: How to Ditch the Endless Quest for Perfect and Find the Career – and Life – That’s Right for You (Seal Press; May 2011), where they share stories from women who have been blessed by limitless choices – but find that with the more options available, the harder it is to feel satisfied.

What I loved about our conversation and this book is that it clearly illustrates how many women of all ages are yearning to have this conversation.  A conversation about how to create a life and career that is authentic, satisfying, and accomplished without having to continually feel like you are “not enough”.

The Kelleys pull together current information from the media and the academic world to present a well-rounded picture of this phenomenon of “analysis paralysis” – the syndrome of being paralyzed by too many choices – and the angst that arises from this choice overload.  Needless to say this is right up my alley since Intuitive Intelligence™ is all about breaking through the self-torture of indecision and struggling to make the “right decision” and instead being able to make the wise decisions for you with ease.

Within UNDECIDED, the Kelleys explore the reason behind women’s generational epidemic of chronic indecision, contextualizing this “problem that has no name” using research, interviews with experts, and oral histories from undecided women in their 20s through their 60s.  In my interview with the Kellys, we really dig into some of the biggest insights they learned from these interviews as well as some compelling conversations they are having with women across the country at their book readings.

Here’s a little bit more about the authors:

Barbara KellyBarbara Kelley teaches journalism and directs the journalism emphasis at Santa Clara University. As a freelance journalist, she has written for daily newspapers and their Sunday magazine sections as well as a variety of regional and national magazines.

 

 

 

Shannon KelleyShannon Kelley is a columnist at the Santa Barbara Independent, a freelance writer and photographer, and a corporate consultant.

You can learn more about them and the book at http://undecidedthebook.wordpress.com/

 

 

 

So, tune-in or download for a compelling conversation that really highlights the challenges, choices, and opportunities facing women in their careers from a multi-generational perspective.
Running Time: 36 minutes.

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3 Secrets to a Successful Career

Adventurous PlaceI am very excited about the new series Master Class on the Oprah Winfrey Network.  It is my favorite type of show to watch – inspiring, informative, and an insiders peek into learning from people who are authentically successful while making a difference.  I particularly enjoyed the recent episode with Diane Sawyer.   This woman is just plain inspiring and the sincerity with which she leads her life is what makes her great at what she does.  Because she is so authentic she can walk into the world’s most challenging circumstances and exude confidence and genuine curiosity. I can remember a few years ago when I was at Spamalot in New York City (Sawyer’s husband Mike Nichols directed the show) and lo and behold there was Diane just hanging out at the back of the theater.  You could literally feel her powerful presence yet she seemed content to just blend into the background with the rest of the crowd.

During the Master Class episode, Diane shared lessons from her father.  His simple, yet powerful  rules for being successful in your life’s chosen work.

1) Do Something You Love (and Would Do Anyway)

Some call this the do what you love and the money will follow principle but it is bigger than that.  If you choose to do something you love, especially if it is something you would do anyway (even if  no one were paying you) you will never work a day in your life.  This criteria will give you the fortitude and persistence to stay strong and pursue your desires during the good times and the more challenging times.  You will also naturally be more successful because we’ve all encountered people who are doing something they hate or could care less about and it is a joyless experience to do business with or work alongside them.

2) Do it in the Most Adventurous Place

I really liked this criteria.  Not for Diane’s story she has done her thing at the far reaches of the globe in some of the most beautiful and some of the most dangerous places on our planet.  Now that is certainly adventure.  However, we each define adventure differently.  So don’t feel like you have to go be an accountant in Bhutan if you want adventure.  I consider adventurous to be a state of mind.  You can make any place you are interesting and more adventure-filled.  So I would translate this into being – do what you love in the most exciting and captivating place for you.

3) Help Other People

While you’re doing what you’re doing…help other people.  Serving other people is a path to satisfaction and success.  It brings meaning to what you do.  Without meaning and an element of service, money is useless (and frankly will tend to elude you).  Helping other people can look like a humanitarian effort on a big scale or simply helping your fellow co-worker and associates. In all cases there is a ripple effect that has a positive impact greater than you can ever know.

What I loved most about these simple lessons is their truth is as strong today as it was decades ago when her father shared them with her in rural Kentucky.  It has nothing to do with the “20 hottest careers”, the economy, or any industry.  It transcends it all and frankly that is truly what makes for career success, satisfaction, and a meaningful life.

Anchor Your Efforts in Confidence

Are you as confident as you’d like to be? I mean REAL confidence at your core, where you feel fully comfortable in your own skin. It has nothing to do with what you are doing…it transcends that. The truth is that wherever you go, there you are. If you do not feel fully confident in who you are at the core of your being you can’t experience the success that’s meant for you. Want to be more confident in your career, as you build your business, network with others, speak your prices to potential clients? First you need to grow your roots deeply so you are fully confident and trusting in YOU.

Give Yourself Permission

Join me as I talk about the 3rd step in The Life Alchemy™ Success Formula — Give Yourself Permission.  If you’re waiting around for things to be different or for someone to sweep in and save you (or give you permission)… now is the time to take matters into your own hands.  It all starts with a decision…and the choice is yours.

Share your thoughts, experiences, and feedback on the video in the comments.

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Is Your Career What You Want to Do or What You Think You “Should” Be Doing?

If someone were to ask me what is the most important question you could ask about your career this would be it: Is it what you want to be doing or what you feel you “should” be doing? The answer to this question is extremely telling and often determines the level of success, enjoyment, and fulfillment you can attain in your professional life. Think about it. Compare it to your personal life. If you have an event to go to that you truly want to attend you are excited, have a positive frame of mind, and get the most out of it. If you have some obligation you need to attend because you “should” or your family will disown you if you don’t, are you nearly as enthusiastic? In the end do you enjoy the experience or simply endure it?

I could certainly take a spiritual angle and assert that your experience is what you make it and that even in situations that stretch you that you could adopt a chop wood, carry water mindset:

What that means is that the tasks are the same, but who you are being as you do the tasks is totally different. While I am certainly not claiming enlightenment, I can say that I am so much better at being clear, open, and present with a task than I ever was before. Even tasks that are exhausting and not quite my cup of tea. Instead I did my best to approach it with the bigger picture in mind – serving families in need of decent housing and with the mindset that anything you do can be a meditation if you choose to allow it to be. And, when you do that a whole new world opens up to you.

I totally believe this mindset is crucial to living fully. Engaging in experiences that stretch you are enriching. However from a day in and day out perspective would you rather spend your time doing something that works for you or suffering like a martyr attemping to fulfill someone else’s expectations of you?

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