Second-Guessing Yourself Is Costing You Confidence & Money

Indecision Equals Low Confidence and Less MoneyHave you ever needed to make a decision and then just when you thought you knew what you wanted to do, doubted yourself?  In the “I want to do x,y,z…well, I don’t know maybe I shouldn’t?  What if it’s the wrong choice? Maybe I don’t deserve it?” sort of way.

C’mon… tell me you haven’t ever done this, I dare you!

Almost everyone has felt this way at some time or another, but the question is – how familiar is this routine for you?

  • Do you make it a habit to second-guess all your decisions?
  • Do you doubt yourself from the get-go whenever an opportunity or challenge presents itself?
  • Do you adopt inaction/keeper of the status quo as your mode of operation because you don’t want to risk taking action or speaking up because you might not do the “right” thing?

If this rings a bell, it is costing you in many ways.  You may “think” it is insignificant, but in reality it costs you confidence and money.  That’s right, it literally costs you money. Here’s why…

I used to spend hours, days and months, even years locked in analysis paralysis. I could sit in a cup of self-doubt for what seemed like forever. For several years there I made it my full time job.  Here’s a sneak peek from one of those times early in my career.  My boss would give me a new, more challenging assignment.  While I knew I was intelligent and could figure anything out given time and resources, I would almost immediately launch into a panic. I would doubt my abilities, beat myself up because I wasn’t an instant expert at something I had never done before, and literally think “who am I to think I can be any good at this?”   Everywhere I looked all I could see where obstacles and more opportunities to second-guess myself.

So you can see where this was not the best way to go about achieving something, right?  You can see how this behavior kept me from stepping up to do new things and expand my responsibilities into a higher paying position, right? [Read more…]

The Solution is Always Simple

SimplicityDo you work very hard at making any challenges you are facing complex and convoluted in your mind?  Don’t worry, it’s not personal or a character flaw, it’s just what people do.  If you’re a smart, intelligent, high achieving woman it is likely that you make things seem extra complicated in your mind (you’re an overachiever, right?!).

I know I have certainly had more than my share of this.

How do you know if you’re making it harder than it needs to be?  Well, you’re likely to be feeling:

  • Overwhelmed with all the things you need to do and the constant juggling act.
  • Frustrated and ready to bang your head against a wall.
  • Befuddled as to how to untangle your way out of whatever mess you’re in.

I have been there… literally pulling my hair out, banging my fists against the wall, and dare I say throwing the occasional piece of technology at the pinnacle of frustration.  What can I say; I used to have a huge temper…

Then suddenly (after lots of practice), I discovered that it doesn’t have to be that hard.  The best solutions, wisest decisions, and optimal results don’t arise out of complexity they emerge from simplicity.

You might be thinking – “It can’t be that simple!  You don’t understand how important/big/unique my business or personal challenge is!”

I didn’t say it was always easy; I said it was simple.

Think about it. How many times have you struggled with a challenge so hard and so long it felt like you were wrestling a slippery pig?  Then, in the end… when you finally found a resolution, you felt the desire to smack yourself upside the head because it was that simple?

The reason it often takes so long to get there though is because we frankly like to make things harder than they are.  It helps us feel important, validated, and needed.

But imagine if instead of struggling and listening to the myriad of negative mind chatter you could:

  • Get quiet
  • Experience more peace
  • Allow a wise solution to emerge

How might that benefit you in terms of peace of mind?  More effective solutions?  More aligned actions?  Greater results?

I thought so…

I have personally found and seen it happen in 100% of my clients that when you seek simplicity and quiet the madness you are naturally poised to tap into an infinite source of wisdom and possibility.  You can hear the whispers of your intuition, allow the dust to settle, and see a clear, inspired next action to take.

This always, without fail, leads to better outcomes – for you and your business.

My coach’s request to you.

Next time you are facing a challenge or frustration do the following to activate a soul filled and simple solution:

  1. Stop. By all means stop digging yourself a deeper hole mentally, emotionally, and otherwise.
  2. Create breathing space.  Take a walk, take a break, take a shower, meditate workout, etc. Whatever it takes, create space between you, the problem, and the next step action.  (This is awesome for taming a temper too I might add.)
  3. Release control.  Let go of your need and attachment to fixing things or finding some mythical perfect solution.
  4. Open to receive guidance.  Allow insight and possible solutions to show themselves.
  5. Choose the path of simplicity.  Make a decision or take your next action using the criteria that it must be simple.  If it is not simple (again, it might not be easy…) go back to step 1 and repeat.

I can guarantee that if you take these steps rather than engage and wrestle that slippery pig (even if it’s only in your mind), you will set yourself up for more powerful choices, more pleasing results, and a heck of a lot more peace of mind.

Find yourself going in circles with challenges in your business or balancing your business and personal life?  If so, by all means stop the insanity and apply for a complimentary Intuitive Intelligence Activation Session at http://www.thepaulagcompany.com/application

 

 

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